That is the question that kept going through my mind at the end of yet another romantic-less, albeit absolutely lovely, Valentine’s Day. I’m sure this is the point where I will hear all the “you don’t need a partner to be happy” and “there’s bigger problems in the world” etc. sure – but let’s have some real talk shall we? The truth is there comes a point in life where you think, wouldn’t it be nice to hold someone’s hand …
I blame the age of technology (yes given what I do for a living the irony of that sentence is not lost on me) – pre tinder, tik tok and twitter, we were forced to take more risks, we were bolder in making moves, starting conversations, big romantic gestures. These days if someone replies when they said they would we throw a parade and hope for the best.
So what’s the solution? Is there ‘the one’? At this point I’m almost worried for the poor shmuck, building him up in my head for almost 39 years, all the vision boards, manifestation lists, rituals, prayers – you name it, and in the end I’m still left with – when will waiting for the one be done?
To be a hopeless romantic in 2024 often feels like unbearable torture, you almost want to turn into a sceptic just to make it easier for yourself, but deep down you know that would be temporary, because the second you feel a whiff of ‘that’ smile you’ll be back to yourself.
But I also hope that this new age of skepticism doesn’t deter the romantics, we don’t have to just accept that the black and while movies are a thing of the past, let’s face it there’s enough doom and gloom in so many other aspects of life. I hope that those who seek connection, love and their own version of a fairytale not only continue believing in it, but actually do something about it when the moment comes, when someone makes you smile in a way you haven’t for a while.
I refuse to believe that golden age of romance is over, that a man is incapable of romantic gestures or to make you feel like your worth bringing down the stars for. Until that moment I guess we just keep living, thriving, creating and smiling, hoping that one day will be answer the question – when will waiting for the be done?
